He hit you? I am sorry.

My beautiful strong 4 year old hit your child.  I am sorry.  I really am.  I am sorry that your child got hurt at the hands of my little boy.  I am trying to teach him appropriate boundaries and to use his words instead of his fist.  He acts rashly and quickly and often that means your child gets punched. 

I feel sad when I see the tears on another child's face because of the action of my son.  I am embarrassed and upset.  I will make my son apologize, but for him please understand the words are often just that ~ words. 

He is incredibly strong and lacks an understanding of pain so sometimes his punch was not meant to cause pain but was done in play.  "Normal" little boys often rough house but with mine, someone gets hurt. 

I am sorry if your child was screaming or playing loudly and my little guy punched him/her.  He is inconsistently bothered by sounds and proximity.  He lacks the self control to remove himself or cover his ears because his flight or fight kicks in.  And he will "fight".

I am sorry if your little person gets knocked down, pushed or ran into when my little guy is wildly running about at top speed.  Crashing into things helps him feel great.  He has not yet learned that for your child crashing is not awesome.  He does not intend to hurt anyone.  He is driven by an invisible force to seek sensations that your child may not need and that you and I don't understand.  He needs input and he is still learning how to get it.  I am learning too.  I am slow at this.  I am so sorry when we ram into your child. 

I try.  I really do.  I use all the techniques and tools to help him learn.  I am doing my best.  So is Espen.  It still makes me very sad to see your child hurt.  And afraid. 

Because if unintentionally my son keeps hurting your child, you will not want him around.  You will not let us try to be friends with your child.  I understand.  I am afraid my son will not have friends because he is so rough.  I keep him from situations because I know someone will accidentally get hurt and I know he may be at fault.  Every time a child screams I assume it is because of an action by my son.  It is frightening and upsetting.  I try to keep your child safe.  I am really sorry if he whacks your child. 

I want my beautiful kind little boy to learn appropriate interactions and boundaries.  I want him to behave appropriately.  We are working on it.  We keep trying.  Let us keep trying.